3 techniques for raising a cooperative child

2016.06.30

Have you ever watched your child play with his/her peers and worried whether he was being cooperative or not?

As parents, when we see that our child is fighting with his/her peers or not playing cooperatively with the other children, we begin to worry.

In this article, we will introduce some ways to help your child become more cooperative.

What is cooperativeness as a child becomes social skills as an adult

Children begin to pay attention to their peers from around 3 years old and until they are in elementary school they practice cooperating with each other on a daily basis.

When they become adults, being able to cooperate with those around them becomes a very important trait when forming relationships in the workplace and in social life.
As adults, we begin to understand our place in the world and how it relates to those around us.

It is important for parents to teach their children how to be cooperative by acting as a role model in daily life and in conversations.

How can we encourage our child to be cooperative?hrow tantrums?

Let’s look at the 3 main techniques one at a time.

・Join in activities with friends

When children are between 5-6 years old, they begin to recognize the feelings of those around them.
During this period, if parents and teachers teach them the importance of playing with their peers, they will also learn the importance of cooperation.

If your child has trouble joining his peers in activities, you can try joining as well and playing with your child and the other children as a group.
When your child feels comfortable, you can slowly step out and watch from the sidelines.

However, when your child refuses to join the group, it is important that you do not coerce him/her.
Forcing your child to join the group when he/she does not want to will actually have the opposite effect.

・Teach him/her to think about other people’s feelings

In order to be cooperative, children need to learn how to consider other people’s feelings.
Cooperation is being able to understand the relationship between you and others and to understand each other’s feelings.

If your child is nasty to a friend, ask him/her why he/she did what they did and encourage them to think about how their friend feels.
As a result, your child will begin to consider the fact that everyone has trouble expressing their feelings sometimes.
This positive way of thinking will become the foundation for your child’s cooperativeness in the future.
They will also have a more flexible way of thinking and be better able to react to setback and calamity.

・Teach them the rules of group behavior and their place

When in a group environment, one needs to follow the rules to avoid trouble.
It is important that parents teach their children this from the beginning.
Let’s make sure that they understand that they need to follow the rules and remind friends that are not following the rules that it is important that they do.
It is also important that they know their place in the group. In some groups, they may play the role of leader and in other groups they may be a follower.

Some children always want to be the leader but being able to look at the group environment and determine whether they should be the leader or not is a form of cooperation and is a very important skill.
Children who do not have this skill may run into trouble.

It is important that parents help their children understand the importance of cooperation and help them gain the skills they need to work successfully with their peers.
Parents should keep in mind that they are the role models for their children so they need to set the right examples.
Let’s show our children the importance of cooperation and help them learn how to be cooperative on their own.

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