Can you explain the difference between “Overprotection” and “Excessive Meddling”?
We often hear about “overprotective parents” but many of us have not heard much about “parents who meddle excessively in their children’s lives”.
Understanding the difference between these two actions will help you interact with your child more effectively. In this article, we will explain the definition of these phrases in detail.
Parents are acting “overprotective” when they spoil their children more than they need to and give in to all their desires. There is no problem with allowing your child to do what he/she wants to do. Young babies often want to continue to breastfeed and not separate for their mother. In this case, it is not a bad thing to give in to their wants. As a parent, you may worry that if you spoil them too much they will not become independent. But if children are felt that they are listened to they will slowly become less dependent on you. However, as children become older, if parents continue to give in to all their requests it is possible that they will become less independent. It is important for parents to take into account their child’s developmental stage when considering how much protection/support they need.
“Excessive meddling” is different from “overprotection” and refers to when parents interfere with their child’s desires and actions such as “forcing them to do things they don’t want to” and/or “not allowing them to do the things they want to”. It is important to use discipline when your child does something that is dangerous or bad. However, it is important not to manage all your child’s actions. When children can perform their desired actions, they learn how to become independent. When children are praised and rewarded for performing actions that they did not want to do, they learn that it is sometimes important to perform undesired actions. Children who have these experiences tend to become more independent and also worried about how they are evaluated by their parents and other adults around them.
In recent years, some parents are both “overprotective” and perform “excessive meddling”. It is important for parents to protect their children and meddle in their lives. However, performing these actions in excess can affect your child’s independence. Parents should listen to their children carefully and allow their children to have flexibility in determining their own actions. This will help your child gain independence and form a close, loving relationship with you, his/her parents.