What causes temper tantrums and how parents should handle them

2017.03.17

Many children have a temper tantrum and cry if they do not get their way. Most parents know that these temper tantrums are part of growing up. However, when their child doesn’t stop crying whatever they say or do many parents begin to worry. In this article, we will discuss the reasons behind temper tantrums and how parents can handle them.

The 3 main reasons! The emotional development dilemma!

Children who are unable to express their feelings in words often cry and have a temper tantrum when they do not get their way. When babies are around 1 years old, they gain a sense of self and begin to know what they want. However, when they realize that everything does not go as they like, they sometimes get upset. Let’s explore the reason behind these temper tantrums.

-Frustration
Frustration is the number one cause of temper tantrums. This frustration occurs when a child wants to do something on his/her own and is not allowed to or when he/she still wants to play but must go home.

-Hunger
Adults get frustrated when they are hungry and so do children. Thus, children often have a temper tantrum when they are hungry.

-Fatigue
When children are tired, but want to play at the same time, or when they are tired and want to be held they often have a temper tantrum.

It is important to listen to your child

When your child has a temper tantrum in public, you tend to worry about what others think. However,
sometimes, temper tantrums cannot be prevented.
It is important that parents understand that having temper tantrums is natural part of your child’s development and not get angry when they happen. Parents can start by respecting their child’s will and acknowledge them for who they are. When temper tantrums happen, parents can respond with phrases like “this happens”, “you are tired” or “you want to play more, don’t you?”. It is important to use discipline when your child does something dangerous but at other times it is sometimes important to step back and let them be. If they have a temper tantrum at home, you can go ahead and let them cry until they calm down on their own. When they have calmed down, go over to them and give them a big hug.

It always ends no matter how long it lasts!

When your child gets into the habit of having temper tantrums it can be hard to deal with as a mother, especially when the tantrum lasts a long time. However, children usually stop having temper tantrums by the age of 4 years old. The length of the temper tantrum feels shorter when parents are more relaxed. Sometimes, it is important for parents to take a deep breath and let their child cry and relieve their stress.

Some temper tantrums seem to go on forever whatever you do. It is important to let your child cry and not force him/her to stop. Some children relieve their stress/tension through temper tantrums. Parents should try to relax and take a step back and be there to support their child when needed.

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